Oh my yaoi day dreaming was sexual.oh so sexual :D )Īlso I wouldn't say I have 'wild' romantic feelings, but I'm capable of feeling romantic - basically i'd have crushes on guys (real guys :D) but i'd have no real desire to follow it up - I guess I was content with the 'one-sided love' (actually recently i've found this to be true - once I get with a guy and the chase is over as it were the magic goes). When I was small I used to hit anyone who got in my personal space, and I still have the temptation to do that Wait, not all yaoi is sexual? I never knew that!!!!! Is the appeal 2 pretty boys kissing and nothing more?Īlso I have a question about being aromantic - so from what you said Ninny you can have wild romantic feelings but no desire to act upon them? That sounds like me! Though I don't know if I'm just shy.
I know this is just a theory for my asexuality, but it'd be interesting to see if anyone can maybe relate to this? So yeah, I blame yaoi :lol: Although I am perfectly happy being ace and have no desire to change :) I'm not saying had I not become interested in yaoi i'd most certainly be sexual - then again, who knows, maybe :lol: When my friends were busy talking about boys and who they'd like to kiss I was too busy thinking about boys kissing each other to give a damn about my own romance :P Therefore, it could be argued, that due to my self 'neglect' I never developed sexually (as in attraction, i'm in full working order otherwise ) ) or romantically (I'm aromantic, yet I am capable of romantic feelings, I just dont seek it out) I guess I just bypassed the whole (non physical) puberty thing. Okay, my theory is this: During my sexual development if found myself focusing on the relationships (sexual/romantic) of others and so neglected my own. I started thinking about the characters I had previously had crushes on being with each other rather than with myself and it suddenly seemed odd (even impossible) for me to think of myself with them anymore. When I discovered yaoi however this all changed. Now, prior to this I used to develop crushes on anime characters, and although these weren't sexual (i'd dream of dating them/being romantic/kissing etc but nothing explicit :P) the important thing was that it included myself and whoever. I first stumbled across yaoi during my early teens (14ish), during my sexual 'devlopment'.
When this idea came to me it actually made a lot of sense. I believe a possible factor may have been: (dum dum dum) Yaoi. I'm very much into the whole nature/nurture debate and whilst I believe I may have just been 'born this way' part of me is inclined to think there may be environmental factors too. I've been musing recently over possible "causes" for my asexuality.
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